It’s the end of the year. Our “tanks” are empty. As school leaders, we are running on fumes to survive physically, emotionally and organizationally. Each day feels like an uphill battle and one that we cannot possibly tackle. And yet, each morning we return for another day.
How is it that we can be there for others to support and lift up, when we ourselves are running on empty? First, we need to acknowledge that we simply aren’t the superheroes that we think we are. We simply CAN’T do it all. We CAN’T solve every problem. We CAN’T put out every fire. We CAN’T handle every issue. Then, we need to think about who we have on our teams or extended teams that can be on our shadow team and can stand by us for support.
Members of your shadow team could be your AP or your counselor – there by your side to make a difficult call to a parent or help craft an email. Your shadow team could be your same level administrator colleagues in the district who know exactly what your days are like. Your shadow team could be a Supervisor in the district who you reach out to when you need help with substitute coverage. Your shadow team could be someone in the Central Office who can partner with you to solve a problem, have a conversation or even just listen to you on a challenging day (maybe they’ll even bring you lunch or coffee).
But here’s the thing about your shadow team, they’ve got you… but you have to ASK. And we, as heart-y leaders, aren’t good about asking. We aren’t good about saying that we are not superheroes. We aren’t good at admitting that we are out of gas or that things are hard. But, if you do, and you reach out to someone on your shadow team, I guarantee that they’ll show up and you’ll be filling both your tank and theirs just a little bit at the same time. As we roll into the end of the year, our shadow teams are more important than ever. Just reach out and tap them in.